I was never comfortable playing the field by dating two guys at a time—I felt sneaky and unethical.I didn’t know how to deal with two men texting and calling me or how to handle their sexual advances.That rarely worked out for me; he would sense my relationship agenda and he would stop calling me.If I casually (accidently) slept with a man, I felt morally obligated to cut myself off from other guys.Things have been going well, and I give a lot of credit to what I have learned from your book, emails and this site.
They follow up, they text, we talk, make plans…it’s all good. On the other hand, I don’t know how to manage this.
I moved from one date a month to one a week and eventually was going on up to two first-dates a week.
There were several side-effects to this, aside from a busier schedule, that make me now believe this is the best way to approach online dating: 1.
Really multiple dating is just a code term for: 1) Keeping your options open.
2) Being afraid of commitment because you’re afraid of getting hurt. Some people keep their options open because they want to shag around, they think there’s plenty of fish in the sea, and they also worry that someone who perfectly meets their criteria may be out there somewhere and are afraid of ‘settling’.
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I was afraid if a guy found out that I was dating someone else, he would drop me.